To say that this blog has been the low man on my totem pole of priorities would not be an exaggeration. We've received back the behavioral psychologist's 10-page report on her observations of VOTU and it states that the observer does not believe that VOTU is autistic. Instead, she thinks he suffers from 'intelligence deficiency'. Think on that for a moment.
Is that what they're calling it these days?
I heard that and immediately winged back to the first behavioral psychologist I consulted about DTYM's special needs who told me that my son's 'oppositional behavior' (ie, not doing what the instructors asked him to do when they asked him to do it and/or as many times as they wanted) was "due to parental lack of enforcing limits and setting boundaries." I carried that with me for five years. Five years where I thought that if I tried harder, pushed harder, was the best, most capable, most involved parent I could be then my child's behavior would magically fix itself. In trying to be this paragon of parental virtue I made myself miserable and my son an anxious wreck. It turns out that my older child suffers from the inattentive form of ADHD, which results in his being easily distracted and having difficulty staying focused through, say, a 40-minute school segment. Due to his condition, he also has difficulty picking up on unspoken social language; he's too distracted to observe facial expressions and body language, so he has difficulty connecting with his peers. I would love to go back to that behavioral psychologist and bash him upside the head. Instead, I'm taking from it a very valuable lesson--always get a second opinion. And a third. And a fourth. And a fifth. Get as many opinions as you need to until you figure out the real reason for what's happening with you and/or your child.
This time, I will have VOTU go through more testing--again, to (I hope) rule out this ridiculous finding. Testing is like taking a list with all sorts of diagnoses and then ruling them out one by one. This may be a long, involved process of elimination but we'll get through it. Whatever the findings, I can only hope that the results mean more support, better support, and a clearer path for us to follow to guide VOTU towards success.
My son does not have an 'intelligence deficiency'. Intelligence cannot only be measured in scholastic performance. As I discussed another matter with his teacher, we both watched my five year old draw a person with a head, a fully detailed body (including a striped button-down shirt), arms and legs, hands and feet, a face with eyebrows, ears, and hair. His teachers have always told me how artistic he is and how much he loves drawing, painting, sculpting, etc. He may not be a scholastic whiz but his talents, interests, and 'intelligence' are clear.
At the very least, I'm hoping to have him repeat kindergarten. *sighs*
Thanks for Reading!